07 January 2016

How do I cure my pedophilia?

I also just ran into that question on Yahoo, and thought it too was worth repeating..:
I am 16, and for years now I have been lusting after girls much younger than me.....Recently, I started lusting after little boys, too....When I see little girls' feet in public, I go back home and masturbate while fantasizing about molesting them.... I would never molest a child, but I want to get rid of these feelings....what should I do?
First, I want to congratulate you on confronting this. It's probably the most difficult type of 'coming out' that there is.

The answer to your question, however, is that there is no known way of turning a pedophile into a nonpedophile. Although there is the occasional claim, there has never been any decent evidence of it. Rather, pedophilia appears to be like a sexual orientation: innate and immutable. 

The best that can be done, and what I recommend for anyone with atypical sexual interests, is to find ways of integrating it into your life in as healthy and safe a way as possible that poses no risks to anyone. 

The male sex drive is a very powerful motivator, and it has led very many people (not just pedophiles) to make very many bad decisions. For some people, sex drive reducing medications (testosterone blockers) can be helpful. That is, some people find that dampening their sex drives is preferable to being constantly distracting by it. For other people, having a professional therapist to debrief with is a great relief. But there is no evidence that we can change the pedophilia itself. 

To help find a therapist experienced in these issues, a referral list is maintained by the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers (www.atsa.com). Although the focus of that group is on people who have committed crimes, the people on their referral list are the best qualified to work with folks who have not. 

You may also find support and great advice from the Virtuous Pedophiles group, at virped.org. They are an organization of people who acknowledge their pedophilia and support each other in never committing offences and in dealing with the extreme stigma that pedophiles face in our society. 

I wish you the best of luck. 


  1. There is also IATSO, which seems to be similar to ATSA. The member of IATSO have experience with offenders and got insight into the offenders lives.

    The best place to start would be B4U-ACT which is dedicated to mental health care for minor attracted people.

    Virped is an appropriate place for people who buy into their anti-contact stance, which was the reason for their split-off from B4U-ACT. My experience with them is bad, i have been bullied off their forum twice.

  2. The problem is that the Tanner stages are taken from medical science and don't line up very well with the age groups in the sex industries that reflect market demand. A better way to approach the issue would be find what age clusters are seen in the sex markets and crime statistics and then figure out what biological markers and events they correspond to.

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