I am 16, and for years now I have been lusting after girls much younger than me.....Recently, I started lusting after little boys, too....When I see little girls' feet in public, I go back home and masturbate while fantasizing about molesting them.... I would never molest a child, but I want to get rid of these feelings....what should I do?First, I want to congratulate you on confronting this. It's probably the most difficult type of 'coming out' that there is.
The answer to your question, however, is that there is no known way of turning a pedophile into a nonpedophile. Although there is the occasional claim, there has never been any decent evidence of it. Rather, pedophilia appears to be like a sexual orientation: innate and immutable.
The best that can be done, and what I recommend for anyone with atypical sexual interests, is to find ways of integrating it into your life in as healthy and safe a way as possible that poses no risks to anyone.
The male sex drive is a very powerful motivator, and it has led very many people (not just pedophiles) to make very many bad decisions. For some people, sex drive reducing medications (testosterone blockers) can be helpful. That is, some people find that dampening their sex drives is preferable to being constantly distracting by it. For other people, having a professional therapist to debrief with is a great relief. But there is no evidence that we can change the pedophilia itself.
To help find a therapist experienced in these issues, a referral list is maintained by the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers (www.atsa.com). Although the focus of that group is on people who have committed crimes, the people on their referral list are the best qualified to work with folks who have not.
You may also find support and great advice from the Virtuous Pedophiles group, at virped.org. They are an organization of people who acknowledge their pedophilia and support each other in never committing offences and in dealing with the extreme stigma that pedophiles face in our society.
I wish you the best of luck.